Family Violence

Health Promotion Disease Prevention

Instructor: Gregory M. Chase, MS Emergency Medicine, MSHED, PA-C, RN

Am I Abusive, Community Health Introductory Program: Principles of Instructional Design

Author: Gregory M. Chase, MS, MSHED, PA-C, RN.
Dr. David Sellen, PhD precepting

Prevent Family Violence through education and prevention




Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is abused by an intimate partner- spouse, boyfriend, friend. On the average, more than five women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day.

For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.


Abuse in America

In the year 2001, more than half a million American women (588,490 women) were victims of nonfatal violence committed by an intimate partner.

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National Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) Statistics

In 2005, there was IPV in about 1 in every 320 U.S. households.3 For 2008, the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics estimates that:

  • IPV constituted 5% of all violence against males and 22% of all violence against females in the U.S.4
  • The rate of IPV for females age 12 or older was 4.3 per 1,000, a 53% decrease since 1993. Against males, the rate was 0.8 victimizations per 1,000, a 54% decrease since 1993.5
  • 72% of IPV against males and 49% of IPV against females was reported to police.
  • About 99% of IPV against females was committed by male offenders, and about 83% of IPV against males was committed by female offenders.
  •  References

    1 Compiled December, 2011.
    3 Klaus, P. (2007). Crime and the Nation’s Households, 2005. Bureau of Justice Statistics, NCJ 217198,
    4 Truman, J.L. (2011). Criminal Victimization, 2010. (National Crime Victimization Survey). BJS.
    5 Catalano, S., Rand, M., Smith, E., & Snyder, H. (2009). Female Victims of Violence. BJS.
    6 Ibid.


    Am I abusing my Partner?

    Not all men are abusive, how do you measure up?

    Abuse Is:

     Calling bad names or putting someone down
     Shouting and cursing
     Hitting, slapping and/or pushing
     Making threats of any kind
     Jealously and suspicion
     Keeping someone away from family and friends
     Throwing things around the house

    Domestic violence is a crime.

    It destroys relationships and families.

    It passes from generation to generation.

    It doesn’t have to be this way.

    If you abuse, you can choose to stop.
    Call us at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3223.

    Friends & Family

    Yes, it is your business

    Maybe he’s your friend, your brother-in-law, your cousin, co-worker, gym partner or fishing buddy. You’ve noticed that he interrupts her, criticizes her family, yells at her or scares her. You hope that when they’re alone, it isn’t worse.

    The way he treats her makes you uncomfortable, but you don’t want to make him mad or lose his friendship. You surely don’t want to see him wreck his marriage or have to call the police. What can you do?

    Say something. If you don’t, your silence is the same as saying abuse is ok. He could hurt someone, or end up in jail. Because you care, you need to do something… before it is too late.

    What Can You Say or Do?

    Draw attention to it.

    “Do you see the effect your bad words have on her?”
    “When you do that, it makes her feel bad.”
    “Did you mean to be so rough? That’s not cool.”

    Tell him what you think.

    “I’m really worried about her safety.”
    “I’m surprised to see you act that way. You’re better than that.”
    “I care about you, but I won’t tolerate it if you abuse her.”
    “This makes me really uncomfortable. It’s not right.”

    Express ideas about loving behavior.

    “Loving her doesn’t mean abusing her.”
    “Good husbands and partners don’t say or do those kinds of things.”

    Offer suggestions or solutions.

    “Men should never hit or threaten the women they love.”
    “Kids learn from their parents. Is this how you want your son to treat women?”
    “How would you feel if your daughter chose someone who acted like this?”
    “Call me if you feel like you’re losing control.”
    “Maybe you should try counseling.”
    “You should talk to your faith leader and see what he/she suggests.”

    If his behavior is criminal, tell him so.

    “Domestic violence is a crime. You could be arrested for this.”
    “You could end up in jail if you don’t find a way to deal with your problems. Then what would happen to you and your family?”

    He May Not Like It

    He may not listen. He may get enraged, deny it, ignore you or make excuses. He may want to talk about what she did to him. He may even laugh it off or make fun of you. Still, you need to say something. Your silence is the same as saying you approve.

    Or He May Take You Seriously

    and Decide to Change

    If men learn to put down and abuse women from other men, they can also learn from other men how to respect women. When you decide that violence against women is unacceptable and choose to lead, other men will begin to think twice before they strike with their words or fists.

    It isn’t easy or comfortable, but men must step up to the plate because next time, it could be your sister, mother, friend or co-worker. It’s the right thing to do.

    Listen. Teach. Lead.

    Help Stop Domestic Violence

    If you are concerned about the safety of your friend’s partner or spouse, or to learn about services in your area, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or
    TTY 1-800-787-3224.

    Do The Right Thing

    Tell Him There Is A Better Way

    Show Him there is a better way, the Centers for Disease Control offers information on how to develop Violence Prevention Strategies for you and your partner visit the CDC and their family guide to abuse prevention

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